No One's Coming to Save You (But Here’s How You Can Save Yourself)
It’s Monday Again Besties!
Let’s chat about pain. For the longest time, physical pain has shaped almost everything in my life — my body, my work, and especially my relationships. I don’t know which is worse, not getting invited to events, or constantly cancellingPeople drift. I felt like a burden, like found myself apologizing for just existing.
We don’t always realize we’re doing it, but we wait all the time. We wait for motivation to show up, for the “right” time to start. We wait for our mental health to stabilize, for our big break, or for permission. We wait for someone to notice how overwhelmed we are and offer to fix it.
For a long time, I thought someone would step in. A doctor. A partner. A friend. A Parent. Someone would see me and take the weight off.
They didn’t.
Eventually, I had to face it:
No one is coming to save me.
And weirdly — that truth gave me peace, because it meant I could finally stop waiting. I could start building a life around the pain, not in spite of it.
That’s when I learned about Radical Acceptance — a DBT skill that teaches you to stop fighting reality. Not to give up. Not to like it. Just to let go of the extra suffering that comes from resistance.
"This is happening. I hate it. But it’s real. What now?"
t’s not a co-sign, it’s simply freeing up all the energy you've spent resisting and redirecting it toward actual healing. For me, that looked like saying:
I am in pain.
I am not always dependable.
Some people will leave.
My life will look different than I expected.
I may always have to live slower than I want to.
And instead of spiraling in grief every time that reality showed up… I started planning with it in mind.
So how do you save yourself?
Here’s the truth I give my clients:
I can’t save you.
But I will keep pushing you forward.
Every step. Every pivot. Every reset.
If you’re still sitting in the dark waiting for your savior, book a coaching call today, or leave me a message below!
Let’s stop waiting. Let’s start moving. Together.
Your Bestie,
LuLu 🩷
